Doug Wilson on Leading in the Home

Doug Wilson's first message at the 2012 Conference for Pastors was about the role of fathers in leading the home. Download the audio and video.

He noted six things to learn about fatherhood in the baptism of Jesus (Matthew 3:16–17),

  1. When Jesus was baptized, his father was there.
  2. The Father made his presence felt.
  3. The Father made his presence known by speaking.
  4. The Father's statement identified with his son.
  5. The Father expressed his love for his son.
  6. The Father expressed his pleasure in his son.

Memorable Quotes

  • "Fatherhood in the home and pastoral care in the church are analogous activities. This makes sense only if they are related activities."
  • "When Paul considers the leadership of the church he doesn't first refer to a rigorous M. Div. program."
  • "The way we image the Father is to be open-handed and generous in all that we have."
  • "Masculine toughness has to lay underneath masculine tenderness. It is a velvet covered brick."
  • "Biblical authority knows how to bleed for others."
  • "If you want to preach the gospel to your wife and to your children, then die."
  • "When men take up their responsibilities to provide and protect, it resonates with their being. When men walk away from their responsibilities, they walk away from their assigned masculine identity."
  • "Fathers are speaking about God the Father constantly. They have no option to shut up."
  • "The Father is not guilty of the sins you are repenting of. We have not truly repented if we turn to the Father thinking that he will receive us the same way we would have received ourselves before repentance."
  • "Know that your heavenly Father is looking down the road for you."

Jonathan Parnell (@jonathanparnell) is a writer and content strategist at Desiring God. He lives in the Twin Cities with his wife, Melissa, and their four children, and is the co-author of How to Stay Christian in Seminary.