Blog Posts on Dating & Singleness

Dads, Date Your Daughter’s Boyfriend

Marshall Segal

One of the most terrifying moments of a not-yet-married man’s life is meeting his girlfriend’s father.

The much-anticipated introduction is an unending fountain of humor for friends and family, but it’s more often an occasion for horror for the young man. What will dad say? What will he ask? Will he be armed? The moment is a mountain to overcome in almost any relationship, but I believe it’s a mountain…

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Love the Single Chapter of Your Life

Marshall Segal

It’s just a fact, young people in America — even in the church — are getting married later and later. This means there are more men and women that are unhappily not-yet-married long into their twenties, even their thirties.

When so many are feeling unsatisfied and incomplete in their singleness, Ben Stuart encourages us to see this season with God's eyes and heart and purpose. In three minutes, Ben…

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Nine Lies in the Not-Yet-Married Life

Marshall Segal

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, perhaps one of the more polarizing holidays of our year. It’s very fun and exciting for the love birds, too commercial and insincere for the skeptics, and sometimes especially lonely for the single.

Singleness’s greatest sorrows are secretly reinforced every February in the souls of the not-yet-married still waiting for their wedding day. While many of our friends and family are inundated with dates, flowers, chocolate,…

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It’s Not You, It’s God: Nine Lessons for Breakups

Marshall Segal

Some of a single person’s darkest days fall after a breakup.

You risked your heart. You shared your life. You bought the gifts, made the memories, and dreamed your dreams together — and it fell apart. Now, you’re back at square one in the quest for marriage, and it feels lonelier than square one, and further from the altar, because of all you’ve spent and lost.

No one begins dating…

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Behind the Blog: Christian Dating

Jonathan Parnell

Four years ago, the small-budget, independent production 500 Days of Summer premiered at the Sundance Film Festival with decent accolades. Since then the movie has surprisingly gone on to earn over $60 million. Why? Because it’s a realistic story of an all-too-common dating relationship — one that ends up lopsided and empty because of a plastic vision of romance.

Its popularity seems to tell us something about Western culture and…

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When the Not-Yet Married Meet: Dating to Display Jesus

Marshall Segal

Dating is dead.

So says the media. Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections. Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes.

I beg to differ. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue…

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Spiritually and Emotionally, How Far Is Too Far Before Marriage? (Ask Pastor John)

Tony Reinke

ESPN analyst Chris Broussard on homosexuality. C.S. Lewis on joy. Choosing a seminary. Processing a tragedy. And how far is too far in dating. It’s all in a fortnight of Ask Pastor John episodes.

What follows are excerpts from each episode (click on hyperlinked titles to listen).

How Far Is Too Far Before Marriage, Spiritually and Emotionally? (Episode 84):

A man especially needs to stay awake to what is happening…

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Single, Satisfied, and Sent: Mission for the Not-Yet Married

Marshall Segal

If you’re single, Satan is after you.

Okay, he’s after all of us, but there are some unique dangers in singleness — especially in unwanted singleness. He loves to deceive and discourage single people in the church and derail our devotion and ministry. But God intends to use you, your faith, your time, and your singleness in radical ways right now, as you are.

You might come away from a…

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How Young Men Prepare for Marriage

Josh Etter

Doug Wilson, speaker at our 2012 Conference for Pastors:

We'd love for you to join us in Minneapolis from January 30 to February 1. Register for just $145, or bring a group of five or more from your church for just $100 (per person).


Recent posts for the 2012 Conference for Pastors —

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How to Serve "The Singles" — Ministry to Unmarried Adults in Your Local Church

Carolyn McCulley

When I was a single woman in my mid-thirties, I invited the elders of my church and their wives to a formal holiday dinner as a way of expressing my thanks to them for their care and ministry. As I served the standing rib roast on a table set with china and crystal, one man remarked, “Wow. I never would have done this when I was single. It would have…

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