Blog Posts on Marriage

Learning from Lincoln’s Flawed Marriage

Tony Reinke

The impressive new feature film Lincoln brings with it a high-definition reminder of the tremendous strengths and flaws of, and the challenges faced by, the 16th president of the United States.

One struggle that finds its way into the movie — and one scene in particular — is the strained and complicated marital relationship between Mary Todd and Abraham Lincoln. And yet from their marital mess, there’s an abiding counter-cultural…

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A Possible Marriage Saver in Nine Steps

John Piper

The grace of God is patient and works both instantaneously and over time. A mistake we sometimes make is thinking too idealistically, as though if we blow our first apology, there is no chance for a second.

The way to think about this marriage saver biblically is that it is an effort to see Colossians 3:13 fleshed out in real life: “Bear with one another and, if one has a…

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The Trouble with Focusing on Your Marriage

David Mathis

Focusing on your marriage can be a good thing. And it can really mess you up.

It depends on what kind of focusing you’re doing. If it involves a season for extra attention and conscientiousness and investment, to deepen the roots, or to heal — and so to better reflect Jesus and his bride — that can be a Godsend. Many of us have profited from seasons like this, and…

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Nine Ways the Gospel Transforms Marriage

Jonathan Parnell

Jesus Christ, the Son of God, suffered on the cross in our place and was raised triumphantly from the dead. He ascended to the Father's right hand and is now enthroned, sending his Spirit who by the Word gathers for himself a new people from every tribe and tongue and nation. This new people — the church — are those who by repentance from sin and faith in Jesus are…

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What Is at Stake If I Don't Date My Wife?

Jonathan Parnell

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). That is, we should pursue our wives in sacrificial love, leading as husbands who have been transformed by the gospel. We should date our wives.

So then, what is at stake if we don't?

Justin Buzzard, author of Date Your Wife, answers in this 12-minute video:

Watch the trailer and get the…

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The Problem with Commitment

Jonathan Parnell

Marriage is not maintenance mode. Justin Buzzard, author of Date Your Wife, explains that the biblical vision for marriage means more than mere commitment. Husbands are to love their wives like Jesus loves his church, and that means sacrifice. It means pursuit.

Watch the trailer and get the book from Amazon or WTS Books.


Interview with Justin Buzzard:

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Husbands, Spend Time with Your Wife

Jonathan Parnell

A marriage counselor in Minnesota is encouraging couples to spend time together, the StarTribune reports. Findings are that spending at least 5 1/2 hours a week interacting with your spouse can strengthen your marriage.

Now this is interesting. Spending time together strengthens a relationship. That is vague and positive enough to be in a fortune cookie. And maybe it seems so intuitive that it's unworthy for print. But here's…

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20 Quotes from Date Your Wife

Jonathan Parnell

I recently asked Justin Buzzard how he would sum up his new book in less than ten seconds. "If you want to change a marriage, change the man," he replied, "and Jesus changes the man."

Simple and straightforward, Date Your Wife (Crossway, June 2012) is a book to read for yourself and recommend to any friend. It's my wife's favorite book I've read this year. Here are 20 standout quotes:

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Sex Is Profound

Jonathan Parnell

Marriage is profound, as Paul tells us in Ephesians 5:32. It is a mystery. Two become one. The depths of what this is really about transcend the definitions of any government. It refers to Christ and the church.

John Piper writes,

Leaving parents and holding fast to a wife, forming a new one-flesh union, is meant from the beginning to display this new covenant — Christ's leaving his Father…

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