Blog Posts on Marriage

What Is at Stake If I Don't Date My Wife?

Jonathan Parnell

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). That is, we should pursue our wives in sacrificial love, leading as husbands who have been transformed by the gospel. We should date our wives.

So then, what is at stake if we don't?

Justin Buzzard, author of Date Your Wife, answers in this 12-minute video:

Watch thetrailerand get the book fromAmazonorWTS Books.

Interview with Justin Buzzard:

Husbands, Spend Time with Your Wife

Jonathan Parnell

A marriage counselor in Minnesota is encouraging couples to spend time together, the StarTribune reports. Findings are that spending at least 5 1/2 hours a week interacting with your spouse can strengthen your marriage.

Now this is interesting. Spending time together strengthens a relationship. That is vague and positive enough to be in a fortune cookie. And maybe it seems so intuitive that it's unworthy for print. But here's the catch: there's more to this... Continue Reading

20 Quotes from Date Your Wife

Jonathan Parnell
20 Quotes from Date Your Wife

I recently asked Justin Buzzard how he would sum up his new book in less than ten seconds. "If you want to change a marriage, change the man," he replied, "and Jesus changes the man."

Simple and straightforward, Date Your Wife (Crossway, June 2012) is a book to read for yourself and recommend to any friend. It's my wife's favorite book I've read this year. Here are 20 standout quotes:

"A dream is what drives a man. As a boy grows up, he gradually forms a dream for his future... Continue Reading


Larissa Murphy

Related: We will be hosting our first Disability Conference this fall in Minneapolis.

Intro: Letter from John Piper
Part 1: Why We Got Married
Part 2: Learning Contentment in Suffering
Part 3: A Daily Disabled Life

He wanted us to listen to his new song, that would be on his EP which was releasing in a few months. We were at home, cozy in the living room. We helped Ian onto the couch and Caleb started the recording. Just a few notes in, "Is this song about heaven?" I asked. The sound, the feeling and the... Continue Reading

Sex Is Profound

Jonathan Parnell

Marriage is profound, as Paul tells us in Ephesians 5:32. It is a mystery. Two become one. The depths of what this is really about transcend the definitions of any government. It refers to Christ and the church.

John Piper writes,

Leaving parents and holding fast to a wife, forming a new one-flesh union, is meant from the beginning to display this new covenant — Christ's leaving his Father and taking the church as his bride, at the cost of his life, and holding fast to her in a one-spirit... Continue Reading

Is a Wife's Submission Culturally Outdated?

Tony Reinke
Is a Wife's Submission Culturally Outdated?

In our egalitarian culture, the debate over a wife’s submission to her husband is not going away anytime soon. Of course we start with Scripture, and the Bible is clear in calling the first-century Greco-Roman wife to submit to her own husband (Ephesians 5:22, 24, Colossians 3:18, 1 Peter 3:1). But is this command now applicable to 21st-century Christian wives?

Many say no, and one opposing argument goes something like this:

Paul commanded Greco-Roman slaves to... Continue Reading

You Can't Say This Enough

Jonathan Parnell

John Piper writes about a conversation with his wife, Noël, when he was preaching a series on marriage a few years ago. After a couple sermons on the foundation and ultimate meaning of marriage he asked for her feedback. "You cannot say too often that marriage is a model of Christ and the church," she replied.

And she is positively right. Marriage as a picture of Jesus and the church is "Marriage 101" for most Christians and yet, we cannot underline the truth enough.

We've heard it... Continue Reading

Four Reasons Why Marriage Is God's Doing

Jonathan Parnell
Four Reasons Why Marriage Is God's Doing

The most foundational thing we can say about marriage is that it is God's doing. John Piper explains, "A glimpse into the magnificence of marriage comes from seeing in God's word that God himself is the great doer. Marriage is his doing. It is from him and through him" (24).

In his book This Momentary Marriage, Pastor John gives four reasons why marriage is God's doing:

First, marriage was God's design.

While Genesis 1:27–28 makes clear that marriage is meant for male... Continue Reading

How God's Glory Shines in Christian Marriage

Jonathan Parnell

Pastor John:

There are two levels at which the glory of God may shine forth from a Christian marriage:

One is at the structural level when both spouses fulfill the roles God intended for them — the man as leader like Christ, the wife as advocate and follower of that leadership. When those roles are lived out, the glory of God's love and wisdom in Christ is displayed to the world.

But there is another deeper, more foundational level where the glory of God must... Continue Reading