Do you believe both of these statements?
1. God loved us before we loved him, and not because we loved him.
2. God loves us in response to our love for him—because we love him.
They are both true.
Before I give you the texts to show it, the key in all such questions is to insist that you define terms and make necessary distinctions. The same words can mean different things in different places.
In support of the first statement, we cite:
1 John 4:10: “In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.”
Ephesians 1:4-5: “In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose …