Don't back out on your commitments, don't marry an unbeliever, and don't divorce your covenant wife.
Sin didn't create headship and submission; it ruined them,
distorted them, and made them ugly and destructive.
Be in sync with God about marriage and out of sync with secular western culture.
Enduring the Pain of Flawed Marriage
Abraham Lincoln’s marriage was a mess, but accepting the pain brought deep strength in the long run.
Anger is often a worse enemy than lust in marriage. What can you do to keep it from ruining yours?
Marriage is about keeping a covenant, as Jesus does with his bride, the church.
Why were Adam and Eve unashamedly naked? And why did they become ashamed when they sinned?
We ought to treat our spouses with the same grace that God treats us.
Where can you find the grace to see your spouse the way Jesus does?
If a man and woman are totally commited to each other—even if neither changes—the call for change is grace, not an ultimatum.
Grace is not just forgiving and forbearing but also changing to become more like Jesus.
Listen to John Piper talk about why Paul calls marriage a mystery.
If what Piper says about the blessing of singleness is true, then why would one even want to be married?
Marriage is not just about filling the earth with warm bodies but filling the earth with worshipers of Jesus.
John Piper reaffirms God's design to help his people—and their marriages—through others in their local church.
John Piper explains how we can have friendships that don't threaten the exclusivity of our marriages.
John Piper offers several ideas for how a wife can help her husband take responsibility for the spiritual life of his family.
John Piper mentions three ways a Christian wife can bless her husband.
John Piper says that our definition of marriage has great spiritual, cultural, and social effects.
“The aim of this book is to enlarge your vision of what marriage is. As Bonhoeffer says, it is more than your love for each other. Vastly more. Its meaning is infinitely great. I say that with care. The meaning of marriage is the display of the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his people” (p. 15).
The Joy of Being Married to You
“My prayer is that these small tastes of my imperfect affections will fan affections into flame—for God, for your spouse, and, in every fitting way, for all the treasured people in your life” (p. 14).
John Piper says that our love for Jesus should control our love for another, not the other way around.
John Piper says that any biblical truth can be a marriage sermon.
John Piper says spouses should focus mainly on cultivating attractive spirits, not attractive bodies.
John Piper says that all sin should be given to God first and then spoken about openly with your spouse-to-be.
John Piper says that an unloved spouse should stay compassionately committed.
Husbands, don't contradict the gospel by how you treat your wives.
John Piper acknowledges the merits of online matchmaking and wonders how it might inform the church.
John Piper says that unfaithful spouses should confess their sin and humbly seek to win their partners back.
John Piper says that illness is not among the factors that make marriage foolish.
John Piper suggests several ways a child might help his parents' marriage endure.
John Piper says God approves of non-Christians getting married, even though it's sin.
John Piper tells why and how he thinks it's OK to use "conception control."
John Piper says it is important to have your parents' blessing, but not absolutely necessary.
John Piper says a wife is to prayerfully and humbly bring her perspective to her husband.
Help for Christian Couples
"Preparing well for marriage means asking each other all the hard questions" (p. 1).
In Episode 144, Pastor John shares the advice he would hypothetically give a “younger John Piper” about marriage.
In Episode 165, Pastor John explains that marriage is a covenant to max, namely, a symbol of how Christ is bonded to his church.
In Episode 169, Pastor John explains why Adam’s singleness was “not good.”
In Episode 191, Pastor John explains why he would not attend the wedding of a same-sex couple.
In episode 222, Pastor John talks about a wife taking her husband's last name
Biblical Manhood & Womanhood