Fellow complementarians, try framing the gender debate in three categories instead of two.
Feminists and egalitarians love it when everything to their right is cast as one monolithic “complementarianism.” But authentic complementarians need to highlight that there is not only sin to the left, but to the right as well. True biblical complementarity is neither feminism nor misogyny. It’s neither egalitarian nor patriarchal. Jesus plotted another course altogether — a third way that viewed gender “in step with the truth of the gospel” (Galatians 2:14).
Jesus had a different flavor of complementarity than many who try to pass under that sometimes unhelpful label. He didn’t cloak male chauvinism in the guise of complementarity, but had a different way of treating women than his first-century contemporaries.
Watch John Piper reflect on John 4:27 (“They marveled that he was talking with a woman”) and how Jesus treated women, from the sermon, “The Food of Christ Is to Give Eternal Life”: