Husbands are called to love their wives differently than wives love their husbands, but not completely differently. For instance, the Bible calls husbands to submit in marriage, too. In this lab, John Piper lays the groundwork for several labs addressed to men about marriage.
Principle for Bible Reading
Transition words are some of the easiest to pass over in English. For instance, many will read 1 Peter 3:7 without even noticing the “Likewise . . . ” Words like these should shape how we read, though. Missing them will often mean missing the point or tone of a particular passage.
- Explain the “Likewise” at the beginning of 1 Peter 3:7. For help, reread the previous verses (1 Peter 2:13–3:6).
- When it says a husband must live with his wife “in an understanding way,” what things should he understand? Begin with the immediate context.
- Now, read 1 Peter 1:14–15 and 1 Thessalonians 4:4–5 and explain how, if at all, that affects your answer to the previous question.
A Word for Husbands — And Everyone Else (01:55–04:34)
- The word “likewise” means the instructions specifically applied to husbands are meant for everyone. (1 Peter 3:7)
- One reason to say that is that the command here “to honor” has already been given to all Christians. (1 Peter 2:17)
- These husbands are being addressed as exiles and sojourners who live and are married in a foreign world. (1 Peter 2:11)
- Therefore, every Christian can read Peter’s words for husbands and learn how to live a godly life.
Husbands Submit, Too (04:34–06:40)
- Peter has already encouraged Christians to be subject to every human institution (to governments, to masters, and to husbands). (1 Peter 2:13, 18; 3:1)
- He now says “likewise” to husbands. Husbands are now called, like the others, to submit in marriage in a way that’s particular to their role. (1 Peter 3:7)
- Just like the other examples, husbands are to submit and love for the Lord’s sake. (1 Peter 3:7; 2:13)
Know Your Wife (06:40–10:33)
- Husbands are to live with their wives “in an understanding way” (literally, “according to knowledge”). (1 Peter 3:7)
- What are husbands supposed to know to live well with their wives?
- Examples: What does “honor” mean? Why is the woman a weaker vessel? In what way is she an heir?
- It also means husbands need to know their wife. They must study their particular woman because they are all different.
- This knowledge will be the opposite of their former ignorance. (1 Peter 1:14–15)
- Knowing God affects your passions. Those who do not know God will be slaves to their lusts. (1 Thessalonians 4:4–5)
The World Needs More One-Woman Men (article)
The Delight of Disciple-Making: Being the Smile of God in Your Home and Your Church (sermon for husbands and fathers)