Give Others the Gift of Being Slow to Speak
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. (James 1:19)
Listen. Wait. Respond.
How many of our conflicts would dissolve or never even materialize if we:
- Listened to really understand a person’s concern or complaint,
- Waited... till our typically wrong initial impulse passed, till we’ve prayed, till we’ve asked clarifying questions,
- And then responded with patience, graciousness, honesty, clarity, and, if possible, brevity?
Full disclosure: I’m writing mainly to myself here. But if you, like me, tend to be slow to hear, quick to speak, and quick to impatience, come and exhort yourself with me.
Listen. A quickness to listen is a mark of humility, something I do when I consider someone else more significant than myself (Philippians 2:3). Listening to understand before I respond is a sign that I am not wise in my own eyes (Proverbs 12:15),…